Hi! :D
I just went back from my trip to Penang! :D thank God everything went well, and it was a new experience for me to visit another part of Malaysia :) I'll tell the whole stories complete with the pictures once my friends already upload the pictures on facebook, deal? :D
I am daaaang tired since I just slept for approximately 2 hours during the past 32 hours, but I am sooo excited to write this post and this can't wait until tomorrow (to the limit that I am currently typing this on my bb because I am too tired to turn my laptop on :P). In this post, I am going to tell the story about the journey itself, especially the one when we were back from Penang.
We rented one van that may occupy up to 15 people including the driver, but since there were 16 of us joining the trip, one of us (let's say that her name is A :D) brought her car, together with her brother (let's call him B :P) as spare transportation. This was the first time for us to meet B. Besides me in that car, there were also C (male) and D (female), meaning that there were five of us in the car. C is our classmate, but we are not that close, while D has been a close friend of mine since undergraduate years.
We departed from UPM at 11 pm on thursday night since we wanted to arrive at National Poison Centre early. The journey itself took only approximately 4 hours (since both the van and B were speeding like they were in Fast and Furious movie :P). During the journey, D and I were the ones who kept on talking since we wanted to keep B awake (by being noisy, kekeke~ :P) and concentrated on the road. However, B did not talk much this time, and just occasionally commented on our remarks.
However, it was a completely different story when we went back from Penang on friday afternoon. C started the conversation with B, and we found out that B is pretty much a talkative (and a bit 4D XD~) person after having a good nap. Since they were the same age (22 y.o.), it was easy for them to get along.
We decided to separate ways from the van because A needed to drop by at her relative's house in Perak (which is located around our way back to UPM from Penang) since the relative is getting married this Sunday. That was the first time for A and B to come to their relative's house, and we kept getting lost during our journey to Perak (to the limit that we trusted B's-not-so-trustable intuition instead of GPS XD~). However, we kept on laughing and singing and trying to guess some roads while munching on loads of potato chips that we had in the car instead of getting stressed, so I guess this is the first time I was having fun when I was lost in my way :D
When we were back from Perak to UPM, the story began. I did not really remember how it was started, but I think it was when we commented on C's all-mellow-yellow song choice (since it was currently C's playlist playing in the car). All of sudden, he told us the story of his bitter love life.
Basically, C was in a relationship with a girl for 3 years. He was really in love with this girl, but suddenly she asked to break up. When C asked why, she just stated that she didn't find him compatible with her (which is, helloooooo, what did you do for the past three years until you only found it out just now??). Eventhough it was hard for him, he just did what the girl wanted and they broke up. Surprisingly, the girl wanted him back around one week after they broke up, but he could not accept her back at that time since he thought that she was just playing around with him. Buuuut, one month later, he felt like he couldn't hold his feeling anymore because he missed her so much, so he called her and asked her to meet up....
... only to find out that she's already with someone new :(
Of course, he was really broken at that time. Three years is no joke man, they even already met each other's families. However, he was also thankful because later on, he found out that when he was in a relationship with her, she had cheated on him. Twice. At the end, he told us that he already moved on, and he was thankful that God had shown earlier to him that she's not the right one for him.
Then, we moved on to A's story. A is currently doing her PhD, and she is in a relationship with someone three years younger than her. The thing is, this guy has already settled down with his bachelor, and he asked A to get married with him next year. He keeps asking her to marry him like ASAP, and it's getting on A's nerves. She just started her PhD and everything has not been settled yet. She still needs to confirm on her methods, finish all her classes, and other suffocating stuff to do. Getting married ASAP is definitely not a priority for her right now. What makes her sad is it seems like her boyfriend does not understand why she needs to continue to PhD since he already settles down with his bachelor degree, and she starts to feel like her boyfriend does not support her. She was like stressed all our way back to UPM and asked us to play rock songs for her. We could not do anything much for her, but at least we sang along with her to the top of our lungs and she kept on laughing with us since our voice combination was, well.... a bit funny if I should say :P
Next, D told her story. Back then, before she is in a relationship with her boyfriend now, she was close with this one guy. They were like so close that people around them already think that they are in a relationship. However, one day, they suddenly drifted apart without her knowing the reason why *ahem, why does the story sound familiar? :D*. He kept on avoiding her to the limit that she was tired to keep asking what is wrong with him or her that time, and she just decided that she won't mess with his life anymore eventhough she still felt something for him.
Two years later, she found out the truth from her other friend that actually that guy liked her at that time, just like how she felt for him. Buuuuut, he found out that his bestfriend liked D too, so he decided to give up his feelings at that time and 'hand D over' to his bestfriend. This fact drove D mad because she felt like she's just a thing that people can easily hand over. Well, it's understandable since she has feelings too. It doesn't mean that she will accept the bestfriend anyway eventhough that guy already hand her over to him because she did not have any feeling for the bestfriend. At the end, none of them ended up with her, and she is happy now with his current boyfriend. She admitted that she did not feel right during those two years before she found out the truth because she still had feelings for him and she kept asking herself 'what went wrong?', so basically she said to us (particularly to me :P) to settle every unanswered questions in our heads and stop making assumptions because the truth may be far from what we think of.
From all the stories that night, the saddest love story came from B. Two years ago, he lost his girlfriend of 5 years. In an accident. And the accident happened in Gurney Drive, Penang. And the first place that we dropped by when we were arrived at Penang was, you've guessed it, Gurney Drive. Yes, somehow I feel like this might be one of the reasons why he was quiet all the way to Penang, but all-talkative when we were back from Penang. He got the hardest process of moving on. He cried himself to sleep, and sometimes he woke up in the middle of the night because of nightmares about her. They had been a couple since middle school and he already thought that she was the one for him, so it was really hard for him to let her go. At the end, he finally came to terms that he would not be able to forget her completely, even if he's with someone new. The memories will always be there, eventhough the feelings may not. He said to us not to force ourselves to move on, because it is a process. Forcing ourselves to move on will only make us suffer. It is okay to cry, it is okay to think of the person sometimes, it is okay to have a dream about that person, but don't let it get ourselves down. Keep busy, do new things, make new memories. Well, it works for him. He is now in a relationship with a Malaysian who's currently residing in Canada for her bachelor degree, and he plans to propose her when she is back in Malaysia :)
It was kind of surprising to me that in the span of 32 hours being together, we become the best of friends all of sudden. It felt like something 'clicked' that night when we told our stories one by one. I feel like they can be the friends that I am gonna be with both when I want to have fun together and when I need a shoulder to lean on. All of us had our fun when we joked and sang our hearts out, but we also tried our best to give advices and comforting words when any of us put our hearts out during the heart-to-heart session. It feels like we are able to trust each other in only 32 hours. We even made a plan to have another road trip together, or at least a hanging out session at any coffee shop during our free time, and we ensure that B joins us too although he's not from UPM.
Well, we find friendship in unexpected ways, right? :)
I will come back soon with new post full of pictures and story during our trip to Penang. Sooooo, see you around! :)
Ps: Did I tell my story too? Yes, of course, and they gave me the best advices :)
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